“For many years I felt empty inside and that happened because I was looking for love outside of myself. Until I finally realized that love had always been inside of me. Love had been and it will always be the same essence I am made of.”
We long so much for that love that will completely embrace us and enable us to live “happily ever after” that throughout the course of history we have identified true love with that crazy and blind romantic love we see in so many films and read about in so many books only to discover that that kind of love… is not the love we truly deserve.
In my wanderings through the life I call “mine”, which surely has so much of the lives of others, I have learned one thing: romantic love does not exist. If we look through all the dictionaries defining it, we find that is synonymous with that which is ideal or fictitious, and even with a historical trend known as Romanticism, associated with an epoch that among other things, no longer exists.
I spent many years along my path searching for that romantic love and the truth is that I never found it because it never existed and also because, without knowing it, I set out to find true love from the time I was born.
For many years I felt empty inside and that happened because I was looking for love outside of myself. Until I finally realized that love had always been inside of me. Love had been and it will always be the same essence I am made of. It had been in me all along while I had spent all that time searching for it in all the wrong places! What a marvelous discovery that was…
When you turn yourself into love, your world finally transforms itself into a place of joy, peace and harmony. You begin to live in the most magical manner. It is magical because once you understand that a romantic or emotional attraction towards another person is only a minute part of that love that you turn into, nothing is impossible anymore as from that kind of love you are able to create newer, better realities for you.
Where to begin?
Here are some few steps that will successfully guide you toward your own true love:
1. From outer to inner
Go within, find your unresolved sorrows, pains and wounds, forgive all your past, go from victimhood to empowerment by healing and loving yourself so much that you can finally turn into love. This is what self-love is all about.
2. From ego-mind to Self
Understand that your ego-mind is not your true Self. Your ego-mind is incapable of offering you true love so you must be willing to learn to live from the Self, because the Self is the only one that can provide you with the love you deserve. This is why true love is self-love.
3. From Self to oneness with the other
The third step is a consequence of the two previous ones. Some decide to experience it, others prefer not to. While feeling and radiating self-love as your new way of being, another person can manifest and enter your reality as a true reflection of the love you have become. This is a manifestation of true love, the real and unconditional type of love where two beings who are completely self-empowered and free, join to live in oneness. This is why romantic love is not necessary once you discover the greater meaning of love.
Once you understand that true love is self-sourced you don’t need to stay attached to the idea of romantic love. Why would you continue to believe in such a limited concept when you have already realized that you have within ALL the love you could desire and more?
It is time to move beyond outworn Hollywood romantic movies and corny jewelry store ads. It is time to change illusion for truth and ask yourself whether that love which you deserve “to be” really exists in your life.
Say YES to going beyond romantic love and all the disappointment it may have caused you in your life.
Say YES to experiencing self-love and as result, living the freedom and empowerment you deserve.
Last but not least, say YES to live as the Self that can source you with all the love and happiness that nobody else on the outside can.
Until next time!
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